Posts Tagged ‘complaining’

The importance of traditions

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

At this time of year, we must listen to people argue over silly things like whether a decorated evergreen should be called a Christmas tree or a holiday tree.

The premise of the conflict is silly, because there is nothing religious whatsoever about a decorated tree. It’s simply a tradition that has come to us through our primarily European ancestry. People who celebrate Christmas generally have them in their homes and businesses, so they’ve become associated with Christianity. But…so what?

Traditions are important. Consider the places we get our traditions:

–The Bible or other authoritative book of our chosen religion.
–Our particular denomination.
–Our ethnic heritage.
–The region of the country we live in or come from.
–Our extended family.
–Our immediate family.
–Our community.

Now think of all the ways these influences can be combined, and we end up with an infinite variety of ways people can celebrate a holiday. Lots of people like Christmas trees because the decorated tree symbolizes connections to many things, people, and events that are important to us.

Does it really matter what we call it? I don’t think so. If you don’t celebrate Christmas, go to church, read the Bible, or have European people in your ancestry, just enjoy the sight of a pretty decorative item. If you don’t enjoy it, let others enjoy it in peace. That’s my suggestion to those who would get all worked up about the phrase “Christmas tree.”

Do you get tired of complaining?

Wednesday, July 15th, 2009

There are actually two ways of looking at this question: do you get tired of doing the complaining yourself, and do you get tired of hearing the complaints of others?

Most people are more likely to answer “yes” to the second one than to the first. Unless others are voicing the same complaints that we’re already thinking (which just saves us the trouble of doing the complaining ourselves), their complaints are just annoying. But our own complaints? That’s a different story….

Why do we complain so much? Are we afraid that if we saw the good in everything, people would accuse us of being unrealistic or Pollyanna-ish? Or are we afraid that if we’re satisfied with the status quo, the “powers that be” will dump a load of crud on us and spoil our fun? Perhaps complaining somehow makes us feel superior. After all, if we know better than everyone else (perhaps even God?) about how things should be run—how to drive, how to dress, how to run a retail business, how to serve food, etc.—we must be smarter than everyone else.

Have we ever even stopped complaining long enough to examine why we complain? We could give that a try! You may get a lot of surprised reactions when you ask those around you, “Why do you complain so much?” Then again, you may start a trend—a good one.